No bond with the baby, a new Mom can be Frustrating

The birth of a baby can always give you a new experience on the mother. In fact, when You give birth to third child, experiences that occur will always be different. This is because every child born is unique, so as always will create different moments with her mother.

However, what if it is not a moment created a beautiful moment? For example, after You waiting birth for nine months more, so the fruit born of your heart turned out to not feel any ties with it. There was no explosion of happy for having babies, there is no time when You cried happily when see him asleep in peace. You feel flat. And you went so feel guilty. Isn't the baby is usually close to his mother? Why can this way?

According to Alan Manevitz, MD, psychiatrist at Lenox Hill Hospital, New York, many mothers come to him with a case like this, coupled with the recognition that they feel very embarrassed. However, they always insist on Manevitz that bond with the baby that sometimes it could not be created for granted as the birth of an infant.

"It's understandable. Sometimes, in some women, pregnancy and childbirth can provide some sort of trauma in their bodies, "said Manevitz.

Continuous vomiting during pregnancy, the limitations motion due to a stomach grew, then the pain left over from the process of childbirth, making women more likely to hit a lot of rest rather than establish a closeness with his son. "The process of early feeding may be difficult, too, can be one of the pendorongnya," added Manevitz.

So a big desire to rest was not met because the nights afterwards you instead so sleep-deprived, not surprising that the emotional conditions so get messed up. Moreover, if you have to take care of the baby alone without help from the baby sitter or other family members.

"After going through all this, you'll be so tired and inward. It is difficult to expect, you'll look very happy and feel have a great bond with your baby. Conversely, others quite expecting that's what happened to you, "explains Manevitz.

To that end, he advised the mother to reflect on the father, in order to avoid excessive guilt. "Sometimes the father looks more plural when you don't have an emotional attachment to her baby could be invited to play or speak. However, due to the level of expectations is not equal to the father, mother, they don't get caught up in the guilt of which experienced mothers, "said Manevitz.