No one wants a divorce in the family, especially when it already has a child. It would be very difficult to explain to a child that his parents have split up.
When deciding to split up, try to speak with caution. The first step to do when talking about divorce is you have to be really sure of this decision, and it is not possible. When it's sure to be divorced, and You talk to the kids, they won't think that new parents may be divorced. "They need clarity problems to overcome problems and secure themselves," says Jill Shugart, a psychotherapist.
To begin to talk it over with, as best I can pass this along with my husband. The information comes from both of you will be proven in children that divorce would not interfere with communication and their relationship to each other, as well as to convince them that you both can still work together as parents. Indirectly, you have already sent a message to them, "the father and mother are happily together for a long time, and you can see we've struggled. We've been trying to talk and solve the problem, but it has not been successful. Sometimes a parent can be happy together, but some are not. This is what happened to us, and we decided that it is better we live in a place apart. "
Another important thing, when delivered the plans of divorce to children, normally they so feel responsible for this. It is important for You to emphasize that a separation occurred between the parents is not their fault. Emphasize that in divorce, there is one thing that will never change, namely parental affection."Tell them that, until whenever you will still be her mother, and his father would still be her father. You will still always be a family living in a separate case, "he said.
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